Community Guidelines
ConfideFriends exists for honest human expression. We don't want a sanitized platform where everyone says the safe thing. We want a real place where people say the real thing — and occasionally find someone who gets it.
These guidelines are designed to protect that space without killing it. Read them in the spirit they're written: we're on your side.
The Core Principle
Be honest. Be yourself. Don't be cruel. That's most of it.
We don't judge what you're going through. We don't judge your opinions. We don't judge your choices. We do ask that you extend that same non-judgment to others.
What Belongs Here
✓ Venting and emotional expression
Say it. All of it. Frustration, grief, rage, confusion, loneliness — this is exactly why we built this. You don't have to soften it or frame it politely. Just be honest.
✓ Secrets
Things you can't tell anyone who knows you. Things that would change how people see you. Things you've been carrying alone. This is a safe place to put them down for a moment.
✓ Asking for guidance
You don't have to have it figured out. You can ask real questions and get real perspectives from strangers who have no agenda. That's often more useful than advice from people who know you.
✓ Sharing wins
The people in your life might not want to hear about your promotion again. Strangers on the internet? Some of them genuinely want to celebrate with you. Share it.
✓ Honest opinions
Including controversial ones. Including ones that might be unpopular. The only requirement is honesty — say what you actually think, not what you think you're supposed to think.
✓ Relationships, sex, intimacy
These are central human experiences and they deserve honest discussion. We welcome posts about relationships in all their complexity — including the physical and intimate dimensions — as long as all parties involved are adults.
What Doesn't Belong Here
⚠ Deep crisis content
If you're writing about active suicidal ideation, self-harm, or ongoing abuse, our AI will gently redirect you to professional resources. This isn't a rejection — it's us recognizing that a stranger on the internet isn't the right first responder for that level of pain. Real help exists and we'll connect you to it.
✕ Content targeting real people to harm them
Venting about a person in your life is fine. Posting someone's personal information with the intent to harm them is not. There's a clear line between processing your feelings and trying to weaponize the platform against someone.
✕ Any sexual content involving minors
This is an absolute line. Any content that sexualizes anyone under 18 will result in immediate permanent termination of your account and will be reported to relevant authorities. No exceptions. No appeals.
✕ Spam and self-promotion
ConfideFriends is not a marketing channel. No ads, no affiliate links, no promoting your business or services. Authentic sharing of your own experiences is always fine — using the platform to sell is not.
✕ Coordinated harassment
Using ConfideFriends to organize or encourage harassment of a specific person or group is not permitted. Expressing your feelings about an experience is fine. Calling others to action against a person is not.
How Replies Work
ConfideFriends uses a unique reply system designed to protect honest expression. You must write a meaningful reply before you can see what others have said. This prevents herd mentality — every voice in a thread is an original voice.
When you reply, you're committing to the conversation. Write something real. The minimum is 12 words for replies, 20 words for original posts — not to make it hard, but to ensure you've actually said something.
Replies are reviewed by our AI before delivery. The same content standards apply to replies as to original posts.
The Friendship Layer
If someone marks you as a "Possible Friend," a private channel opens between you. This is a slow, intentional space. Messages are not instant — this is by design. The deliberate pace encourages thoughtfulness over reactivity.
All content in private messages is subject to the same guidelines as public posts. Harassment, threats, or unwanted sexual advances in private messages will result in account termination.
Enforcement
Our AI safety system handles most content moderation automatically and silently. For the rare cases that require human review, our team will make decisions as fairly and consistently as possible.
Consequences range from content removal to account suspension to permanent termination, depending on the severity and pattern of violations.
If you believe a moderation decision was wrong, email us at hello@confidefriends.com. We're human. We make mistakes. We'll listen.
A Note on Tone
We don't require positivity. We don't require politeness. We do ask that when you respond to another person's post, you remember there's a real human being on the other side of it — someone who was vulnerable enough to say the thing out loud.
You don't have to agree with them. You don't have to validate them. But remember: they showed up and said the real thing. That takes something.